Talking about queer sex is so important. While no one is really given comprehensive sex education in the current US school system—LGBTQ kids are really at the wayside even more so. This often leaves queer and trans youth with so many questions. It leaves them wondering what does the sex they desire even look and feel like? Is it real? Can you get STIs from non-cis and straight sex? While there are feminist and queer porn sites that have amazing content ahem — The Crash Pad Series they are far more difficult to find with a quick, nervous search from a teen. All of this is to say that queer and trans youth are left figuring out sex on their own, with little to no resources out there specifically with them in mind.
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The first time I had sex with a girl, we did it in a closet. No, seriously. She had a huge walk-in closet with a bed in it, and she would sit on that bed, light candles, and draw and write on the walls.
As far as first time lesbian experiences go, experimenting with someone of the same sex is thankfully less taboo than it's ever been. More recently, in a study of college students, 12 percent of men and 25 percent of women whose last hookup partner was of the same sex as them considered themsleves straight. Exploring what it means to prioritize your pleasure is nothing to be ashamed about. We asked women of all different sexual orientations about their first time lesbian experiences and same-sex encounters. Here are their stories:. In our early 30s, my husband and I decided to open our marriage to some sexual exploration and went on a date with a couple. We immediately hit it off. While the woman and I kissed that night, we didn't take it any further—I think that we were both too nervous. She also hadn't ever been with another woman.